Be Courageous, Not Foolhardy 勇敢,不是蛮干

那一本名为“我现在知道了:给我年轻的自己之信件”,是一本收集了著名美国女士们写给她们年轻的自己之四十一封信。这些信里包含着她们希望在年轻时就知道的劝勉和见解。这里一封由一位大美国作家、诗人,民权活跃分子:马娅·安杰卢所写的信。

亲爱的玛格丽塔:

我知道你渴望一个人独立生活。你不喜欢有人告诉你晚上什么时候一定要回家,你也不喜欢有人告诉你应该怎样来抚养你的小宝宝。你要离开母亲舒适的大房子,她不会阻止你,因为她太了解你了。

但是我劝你听听她会怎么说。

当你走出我的家,不要再让任何人来抚养你 - 因为你已经被养大了。

你已经知道什么是对什么是错。

在你所建立的每一个人际关系,你都必须表现出已经做好了调整和适应的准备。

记住,你永远是可以回来的。

当你觉得不能适应这个世界的话,或者你看不惯这个世界的话,你就可以回家。但是每次回家只能在我的家里住二、三个星期。你妈妈还是疼爱你的,也会给你做你喜欢吃的红豆和米饭。你回家就可以做一次预备,这样的话妈妈就可以再一次让你出去独立生活。这就是父母所给你你最好的礼物,可以培养你的胆量。

勇敢地生活,但不要蛮干。

马娅


讨论问题:

  1. 你觉得这篇文章有什么特别的地方?

  2. 你会给你年轻时的自己写一些什么样的劝告和智慧?

  3. 对于时代的变迁,你有什么样的想法?

The book “What I Know Now:  Letters to My Younger Self”, is a collection of forty-one letters from famous American women written to their younger selves.  It is filled with advice and insights they wish they had had when they were younger. Here is an example from one famous American writer, poet, singer, civil rights activist named Maya Angelou.


Dear Marguerite,

You’re itching to be on your own. You don’t want anybody telling you what time you have to be in at night or how to raise your baby. You’re going to leave your mother’s big comfortable house and she won’t stop you, because she knows you too well.

But listen to what she says:

When you walk out of my door, don’t let anybody raise you — you’ve been raised.

You know right from wrong.

In every relationship you make, you’ll have to show readiness to adjust and make adaptations.

Remember, you can always come home.

You will go home again when the world knocks you down — or when you fall down in full view of the world. But only for two or three weeks at a time. Your mother will pamper you and feed you your favorite meal of red beans and rice. You’ll make a practice of going home so she can liberate you again — one of the greatest gifts, along with nurturing your courage, that she will give you.

Be courageous, but not foolhardy.

Walk proud as you are,

Maya


Source:  https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/07/01/maya-angelous-letter-to-her-younger-self/



Discussion Questions:

  1. What do you find interesting about this lesson?

  2. What advice or wisdom would you write to your younger self?

  3. How has your concerns and thinking changed over time?